As well as living in a world of maternity dresses, I also spend a big chunks of my week teaching yoga to pregnant ladies, new mums and their beautiful babies. It’s a real privilege to meet ladies during their pregnancy and to be a part of their journey into motherhood. For some, it’s a breeze. For others, becoming a new mum can be pretty tough, especially the first few weeks.
My eldest daughter, Grace, is now 13 but I still remember (very clearly), feeling as though my life had been turned upside down when she arrived; upside down in every way!
I’m a pretty organised “have it all written on a list” kind of person. Well, my orderly, routined life went out of the window. I found it hard to adjust to there being no pattern in my days and I had high expectations of the kind of mum I needed to be. That wasn’t good for either myself or Grace.
When Neave came along four years later, I was much kinder to myself. Doing one thing a day was enough.
I had no lists, I spent time just “being” with the girls and more time with other mums and babies. I tried to make it more fun as it made me feel less anxious and I smiled more. We were all fed, clothed and in the right place at just about the right time. Yes, the house was far from perfectly tidy and tea was often a random combination of whatever we had in the house at the time but I was a much more balanced mum and wife. I just felt happier with myself.
I am always telling the ladies in my classes that they are all doing a wonderful job at being a new mum and to be kind to themselves whenever they can; even if that means something as simple as sitting down on their own for five minutes a day, closing their eyes and taking some long relaxing breaths. It’s almost as good as a power nap!
Another one of my favourite things is to remind them that that are each being absolutely the best mum they can be at any given moment. Motherhood isn’t always easy. We are all learning as we go.
Mummies; you know who you are and you know that I think you are AWESOME!!